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BDSM INITIATION GUIDE

TO START, WHAT IS AND WHAT IS NOT BDSM?

When we refer to BDSM we are not talking about a single sexual practice, but  within these 4 letters different disciplines are hidden.  Practicing BDSM does not mean that all the variants are carried out in the same sexual experience. Everyone can decide how much of each discipline they will experience or if they prefer to focus on only one of them.

If you want to know what BDSM really is, we must first understand what is hidden behind each of these letters.

THE ACRONYMS BDSM CORRESPOND TO BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE, DOMINATION, SUBMISSION, SADISM AND MASOCHISM.

BONDAGE It comes from the same French term that means slavery or captivity. It is an erotic practice that is based on the immobilization of the body of the other person, either by means of ropes, harnesses, handcuffs …

DISCIPLINE It is the set of rules and habits that are the framework of action of a submissive during training. Discipline will sometimes involve punishments to correct deviations in behavior.

DOMINATION It is the role that implies taking control and command in the relationship with the submissive part. Encouragement is found in domination by exercising our will over the other person who is at our mercy. Domination will always be linked to submission, since every Dom needs a sub and vice versa.

SUBMISSION It is the role of partner of the Dominant who voluntarily exercises during the pleasure session. The submissive position is the other side of the acronym DS and it means abiding by the wishes and will of the dominant and submitting to whatever he wants to do with his body.

SADISM The word Sadism comes from the novelist Donatien Alphonse Fran├žois de Sade, better known as the Marquis de Sade, who spent most of his life in prison for abusing and torturing maidens. Sadism consists of feeling sexual pleasure and satisfaction by inflicting physical / psychic suffering on another person.

MASOCHISM In this sexual behavior, excitement is obtained through physical or psychological pain, humiliation, domination and submission.

MYTHS AND TRUTHS ABOUT THE PRACTICE OF BDSM

Following the rise of erotic novels dealing with the subject,  BDSM has become more recognized on a social level  and has aroused the curiosity of almost everyone. But despite this boom, there are still erroneous beliefs and objections about these practices and everyone who performs them.

EROTIC NOVELS ABOUT BDSM HAVE AROUSED CURIOSITY ABOUT THESE PRACTICES IN MANY PEOPLE.

There has been the false belief that BDSM brought pain and sadism together to distort its practice, treating this discipline as a sexual deviation that bordered on physical abuse. Nothing is further from the truth,  BDSM implies a mutual consent  of all the parties involved that are delimited by agreed contracts and safe words to stop the session if necessary. The limits are set before you even start.

If you do not have a basis of information about what BDSM is, it may be common for the following erroneous beliefs to be shared:

Is it a practice for wicked people? -> We have NOT found some definitions that speak of sexual perversion, humiliation and pain, but they have nothing to do with what actually happens. We assure you that people who practice BDSM do not suffer from any type of trauma, much less a mental illness.

Is it an abusive practice? -> NO Everything that is going to be carried out during the session is agreed in advance to avoid uncomfortable situations. A security code is established,  which is usually one word, thus ensuring that no one will do anything they do not want.

Each skin is different and pain tolerance is also different, just as not all BDSM practices are the same. Being submissive does not imply masochism, for example. The pleasure of giving up control and following orders is not the same as feeling pleasure in pain.

Is it a practice that is extrapolated to all facets of life?

 -> NO The practice of any discipline of BDSM, in general, takes place during a fixed period of time known as a  session.  Domination / submission will not be exercised in other facets unless this has been pre-established in a timely manner and as part of the game.

WE ALL HAVE A DOMINANT / SUBMISSIVE INSIDE OF US …

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